Shame is a product of a society that prioritizes the soul over the body and is a defense mechanism against all that is low, vulgar, and sinful. The loss of shame in today’s world comes from a profound change in values.
We used to have a sense of shame that influenced our behavior. Reflecting upon a vile word or deed might cause shame to rise up in us. Being admonished for wearing something revealing or improper could trigger a movement of shame. Betraying faith, family, or principles was once considered a shameful act to be avoided at all costs. We felt shame when failing to live up to high standards.
This sense of shame is now gone. People still do deceitful things, and, if anything, such acts are vastly more common today. Indeed, base acts no longer awaken in tepid hearts movements of shame and remorse.
The reason for this lamentable behavior is that we no longer hold ourselves up to high standards. In vain do we seek to restore shame if we do not address how these standards develop.
Lacking a Metaphysical Perspective
The sense of shame comes from a metaphysical perspective of the world. It holds that the only way to interpret reality meaningfully is to look beyond the material existence of things. In the classical and Christian traditions, people did this by searching for the ultimate principles and causes of things.
This meant that they tried to understand the nature of things, and from this perception, they derived principles and ways of dealing with the world around them. Thus, they developed those values of the soul found in art, philosophy, and religion. They valued the spiritual things over the material; the beautiful over the vulgar; the virtuous over the sinful.
This “metaphysical society” developed a rich body of philosophical ideas, laws, and principles. People applied these ideals to the culture and customs of their lands. This vision created high standards of behavior that all were expected to respect. It identified and deemed shameful the lower levels of conduct that were unacceptable, immoral, and base.
Shame as a Defense
Shame is a product of a society that prioritizes the soul over the body. It is a defense mechanism against all that is low, vulgar, and sinful.
In his insightful book, The Cunning of Freedom: Saving the Self in an Age of False Idols, the Polish philosopher Ryszard Legutko explains how the sense of shame is “the reaction of human nature’s loftier elements to the incursion of its baser instincts.”
The ordered soul naturally rises up and clamors against our disgraceful appetites. We instinctively perceive that we are giving in to temptations, weaknesses, or bad desires. Our sentiments rebel against these incursions. Shame may even have physical manifestations in the form of blushing and awkwardness.
Thus, when we fail to live up to high standards, we feel shame for our ignoble deeds or words. When we betray faith or family, it should awaken in us sentiments of shame for our perfidy. When we gravely sin, it stings the conscience which calls us to contrition and to seek pardon.
The Benefits of Shame
Shame serves as an early warning system. When triggered, it compels us to change our ways. It represents a spectacular clash between right and wrong. This strong sentiment makes us see the malice of our acts and their lasting consequences to our reputations.
Thus, a sense of shame benefits society. It is not limited to individual reflections but extends to how others reflect upon us. Many are persuaded to abandon wicked ways for fear of the shame it will bring upon them, their communities, and their families.
With the barriers of shame in place, society can set high standards of conduct. It can propose uplifting perspectives and noble deeds. The fear of shame gives rise to rich collections of customs, fashions, and manners that protect us from the worst follies of our fallen nature.
This perspective is only possible in a metaphysical world. The good, true, and beautiful then occupy a place of honor because people recognize that there are things more important than life and comfort. People are drawn heavenward to a God who created the world with meaning and purpose.
A World of Empty Materialism
Thus, the loss of shame in today’s world comes from a profound change in values. Our materialistic world overwhelms the sentiments of the soul, and we seek only maximum comfort and pleasures.
Our individualistic world turns everything into an obsession for our well-being and gratification to the point that we identify as whatever we care to be.
Our metaphysical world is hollowed out, and all that is left are ruins from times past. Thus, the sense of shame is deadened and suffocated by a postmodern wasteland without narratives or ideals. Shame occasionally returns in times of depression and boredom. However, it is quickly swept away by a loud and restless culture that bids us be merry amid our emptiness.
It is not because we have lost certain habits or wear different clothes that we have no shame. We have lost the high standards and lofty principles that once governed our actions. We no longer live in a metaphysical world that supports a notion of shame. Only a rejection of our materialistic mindset and a return to God will restore our much-needed sense of shame.
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Excellent article, John. One of my fellow philosophy students (way back) did his dissertation on “Shame”. I didn’t quite see the relevance back then, Your article clarified that!
“Shame is a product of a society that prioritizes the soul over the body. “
Shame without the hope of God’s forgiveness and His infused Graces is impossible to bear since left to my own will the passions take over leading to desperation and the necessity to see shame as a punishing unjust tyrant who tortures my well intentioned but weak mind and will
Very good. A long time ago I remember learning the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt, in this understanding, pertains to something you did or do, whereas shame is a disposition of the self: who you are. So shame “compelling us to change our ways” means that we change our interior disposition. Atoning guilt just asks us to stop the action and perhaps make amends. So just admitting guilt and perhaps making restitution is good but falls very short unless there is an change in interior disposition. The world at present wants none of the change of interior disposition but just wants a more superficial admission of guilt and perhaps some restitution. By not delving any deeper the soul, and a society of such souls, remains always in a state of corruption and, of course, out of a state of grace.
Wow!
Shame hasn’t ceased it’s just been flipped on its head… There is a whole thing nowadays called “shaming”. The words and shame and justice among others in the biblical and classical sense have been coopted by our educational orwellian overlords; having been impregnated with new Maoist meaning. Nowadays we are to be shunned and “shamed” by society at large (and even in some churches!) if we dare cling to the old virtues.
I would propose that there is a sense of shame in some persons and this is what has lead to escapism and addiction behavior. In its extreme we see the opioid dependent and overdose problem; without a possibility for and unable to seek redemption and forgiveness despair sets in and consumes.
I think that the media’s cold acceptance of the immorality of Bill Clinton lead the way or at least brought the way into normal thought.
As I told many: We do not need Hippa, I add We do not need the media.
Kant told us that the Western Enlightenment’s insistence on putting reason above faith was going to come to no good. Christian metaphysics has evaporated in a mist of reason taking with it the Judea-Christian moral system. This resulted in more than a hundred years of unfettered orgies of humanist indulgence in all things pleasurable. This orgy has been a great thrill and many a good times have been had. This unrestricted indulgence has been and continues to be seductive and irresistible. Many more orgastic times of wild pleasure are still ahead as the heady experience of unaccountable hedonism rolls on. Few can resist.
But in recent years, a dark specter has risen in the shadows. The disappearance of metaphysics, accountability, shame, and self-control has begun to spread a growing emptiness across the land. Corruption, chaos, and dishonesty are fast becoming the accepted norm. The good are overwhelmed, the bad rise to positions of wealth and power. Spiritual emptiness slowly descends upon us like a fog. In the great scope of time, there is no escape from ultimate accountability.
Sages say, simple living and high thinking add honor and life to our life span.
Well written John. As a priest and a therapist, I have attempted to use a paradigm of either healthy shame vs, unhealthy shame or guilt vs, shame. The church and culture for too long used shame as a way of manipulation behavior control, thus confusing the manipulation with the inner awareness that one violated a law of God/Nature as a corrective device for repentance. A sense of guilt gives one an awareness of their violation of God, self and others without the sense that the core of their being is worthless and unredeemable which is what unhealthy shame creates. Guilt allows remorse, restitution and reconciliation to be worked through without the permanent loss of one’s identity and dignity as a child of God. . I cannot count the hundreds of people with whom I have worked who suffer from this unhealthy shame and cannot accept themselves, creating a feedback loop of poor choices and self abusive behavior. I usually use the word, guilt, a condition, so as to avoid confusion in our spiritually illiterate world.
Thank you Father . Wow beautiful is our Catholic faith. In one hour God will fix in His own way what my heart cannot in The Holy Communion. What Hope and what hope . Theological and human . I learn to desire what is desirable . Divine Providence . Goodness , Truth , Beauty . Love . Desirable cross of shame resurrecting as peace .